That Time I Failed Spectacularly // Leaning into Fear With Teresa Palmer


  1. Absolutely loved this video, such a fantastic message!

    I have failed at friendships (been a sucky friend/had sucky friends), relationships (been co-dependent/stayed for way too long), exams (one maths exam was so brutal for me that i can still remember to this day lying on my bed in the dark with my duvet over my head listening to music telling myself that i was an utter failure), parenting and on and on. My most recent encounter with failure was at a job interview where i had to do a maths test e.g. what y equals the most out of 4y, 4 + y, 4(y x 2) and i just sat there looking at it like ‘what the f**k is this s**t?’. Needless to say i didn’t get the job ha.

    However, what i’ve noticed when i look back over my ‘failures’ that i would not be the person i am today or even be in the situations i am today without those failures. Failing sucks but it’s inevitable, we are all going to fail at some point. And we will definitely fail more than once!

    What i’ve learned is that there is a lesson in every single failure, and in every single mistake that we make. And just because we fail, it in no way means that we are a failure. So just keep picking yourself up and try again.

    As J.K. Rowling said:

    “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case you fail by default.”

    It’s such an empowering message that you are putting out there, i can’t wait to read your next post!

    • Thanks for sharing Kelly. It’s so refreshing to see people taking ownership and saying “yeah, I totally sucked at that” and be ok with it. You’re absolutely right, all our failures shape us into who we are today but they do not define us.

      And what a fabulous quote! Thank you gorgeous xx

  2. In your email to “the tribe” today, you spoke about your recent work-chasing adventure in Los Angeles that ended up all consuming, energy-zapping, stressful and didn’t bear the fruit you had wished for. My reaction was ~ thank you sharing this, Gemma.

    Although Instagram and Web Blogs can be deliciously inspiring, they usually only project the “icing on the cake”. They seldom reveal the crap that could be happening to the cake at the time. Because of this, I have witnessed many impressionable souls feeling that their own lives are failures. They dream of living the “icing world” of those whom they follow on the Net.

    This is why we need you, Gemma. You are such a wonderful role model. A woman who shares both the beauty and the hiccups of life. And you do so in such an honest, vibrant and encouraging way.

    Your video with Tez should go viral. Love it!!!

    Wendalynn Jones

    • Thank you Wendalynn, your words mean so much. You’re absolute right about the dangers of getting sucked into the “icing on the cake”. It simply isn’t real life. Social media is a perfectly curated version of everyone’s lives. It barely scratches the surface and it’s so important for young impressionable souls to hang on to that perspective.

      Thank you for your kind words and support to my blog.
      Gem x

  3. You speak so eloquently and thoughtfully, you should have your own youtube channel!
    I haven’t quite come to terms with the biggest failure(s) in my life yet but I Ioved hearing you and Teresa talk about your own failures and the lessons you’ve learnt along the way.
    I don’t know about you but I follow a lot of blogs and instagram accounts of people who seem like they have the most idyllic lives and as someone who’s not in a great situation right now, it can be a bit disheartening to see, so I think it’s good when they (i.e. bloggers like yourself) show that it’s not always sunshine and rainbows but that’s okay! We just have to push on and try to see the good in every situation.
    A personal favourite quote of mine is “Have courage and be kind” from Cinderella, it’s so simple yet so right.
    Sorry for rambling! I adore your blog and wonderful photography, I always look forward to new posts Xxx

    • Hi Rhia,
      Dont apologies for rambling! I loved hearing your thoughts. I couldn’t agree more that most social accounts share only the idyllic sides of their life. And it’s so important to remind ourselves that behind those smiles are real struggles no different to our own.
      I love that quote from Cinderella!
      Thank you so much for sharing.
      Gemma xx

  4. Ha! There’s so much of this that resonates with me. I was shortlisted for the acting courses at WAPPA and NIDA and got pipped at the post for both and thought my life was over. I now look back on those experiences and others which felt equally, if not harder to deal with, and am in fact grateful. Grateful that I had to dig deep within myself to get back up off the floor, grateful that I had to fight harder for things I really wanted in life (and a much deeper sense of appreciation when I achieved desired outcomes) and even more grateful that I became a better person for it (full of compassion and a desire to help others through the tough times). Thanks for sharing your journey, it’s a gift to offer to others.

    • Perfectly said Rachel! It is through these challenging moments that we truly grow into who we are meant to become.

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