It’s not that I don’t want my guests to eat cake, it’s just that weddings are so darn expensive that something’s gotta give! So the traditional muti-tiered dessert was the first item to make my wedding cutting room floor.
It’s funny, since starting my journey to the aisle, I’ve been forced into becoming a budgeting queen. There are so many costs, components and moving parts to a wedding that you have to assess and reassess the things that truly matter to you.
Er hem! Pinterest has given me ridiculous expectations about my own wedding. Can I get an amen?!
And to be honest, I’m not that bummed about saying “bye bye wedding cake”. Even though I have a crazy sweet tooth (sour coke bottles anyone?) I’ve never been a massive cake eater. And really, other than being a decorative feature, what does a wedding cake really symbolize these days?
So, like any well written essay, I’m taking it back to its humble origins and questioning why we have stood by this archaic tradition.
According to not-so-trusty wikipedia, back in the old days the wedding cake was considered a luxury item.
Ummm I’m pretty sure it still is, wedding cakes are priced anywhere from $300 – $2000!
They were a sign of social status.
I’m really not interested in climbing a social ladder, sorry!
Wedding cakes were born from superstition and were stacked as high as possible for the bride and groom to kiss over.
Well that’s just ridiculous.
A successful kiss meant that they are guaranteed a prosperous life together.
What a load of…
Whilst I know they can be a breathtaking work of art, a pricey cake bears no real meaning for my fiancé and me. But horses for courses and every couple will and should approach a wedding with their own tastes and desires.
I asked one of my best friends (who’s getting married this year) why she’s having a wedding cake.
Her reply? Well… I guess because it’s what you do.
But why? I asked.
I dunno, for the cake cutting photo?
I challenged her further.
Out of all the photos from your wedding day, do you think the cake cutting photo will be put in a frame and take pride of place on your mantle?
She laughed. Ha! Probably not!
But she’s sticking to her cakey guns and forging ahead with a gorgeous two tiered masterpiece. Her cake will no doubt be delicious and I’m lucky enough to be on the guest list to enjoy it. No complaints here.
Perhaps wedding cakes have also fallen out of my favour because I’m having a destination wedding and a part of me wants to take my guests on a culinary journey of local sweets and treats unique to that country.
I guess the biggest lesson I’ve learned from planning a wedding is not to get stuck with comparison-itis and feeling like you should do anything because someone else is. Rules are there to be broken peeps!
I’m not sure the cake making industry will appreciate this ‘cake cutting’ decision of mine, so let it be known that my objective is not to encourage a slippery slope towards cake free weddings (especially if I’m a guest ;).
In fact, maybe this whole blog post is just my way of giving a heads up to my guests – there will be no danger of you having your cake and eating it too.
Love Gemma x
Pssst! What do you think? Are you for or against the good ol’ wedding cake? Join the debate and share your thoughts in the comments section below!
By Gemma Pranita
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